How to Cheat on Your Favorite Vibrator

electric toothbrush as a sex toyQ: The only way I have ever orgasmed has been with the use of my favorite toy, an electric toothbrush. It is what I use during intercourse with my boyfriend, and when I am with myself. It seems that my clitoris needs that intense vibrating power to bring me to climax – rubbing, petting, even at fast speeds, just don't do the trick (although I occasionally orgasm in my sleep!)…I am worried that by using an electric toothbrush I am maybe somehow decreasing my clitoris' sensitivity, or somehow damaging it through the intensity of the vibrations (even though they feel so good!)?

It isn't possible to desensitize your clitoris through masturbation … what is possible is to habituate yourself so strongly to a certain type of stimulation that it's almost impossible to achieve orgasm any other way. And that sounds like what you've done.

This isn't really a problem, if you're happy to keep an electric toothbrush on hand at all times. But if you're interested in developing the ability to orgasm without the toothbrush, here's a few things you can try:

  • First: Don't masturbate for a week or so. Yeah, it sounds horrible, but the idea is to make yourself a little desperate.
  • Second: Buy a different vibrator. If you're used to really intense stimulation, start with something like a Hitachi Magic Wand.
  • Third: Use both vibrators at first. Get yourself close with the new toy, and then switch to the toothbrush if you really can't climax with the new vibe. Eventually, the goal is to get to where you can orgasm with a different toy.
  • Fourth: Once you can orgasm with either toy, try buying a less intense vibrator, or try something totally different like a shower massager. Or get a small fingertip vibrator (see a list of fingertip vibes at the end of this post), or even a massage glove for your boyfriend to wear during sex, and use on you. If he's game, you could even try a vibrating cock ring, to help with "hands free" stimulation.
  • Fifth: Don't worry too much about it. If you've only been orgasming with one method for years, it will take a while to learn something new. The idea is to un-train yourself from thinking you can only orgasm one way.

Basically, what you've done is really strongly reinforced a single neural pathway associating orgasm and your toothbrush. It will take time to build new pathways, but it certainly can be done, if you feel it's important. The fact that you can orgasm in your sleep means your body knows how without the toothbrush.

You may never get to a point where you can orgasm without mechanical help, but that's not uncommon. The trick is to just train yourself to have more than one option.

Fingertip Vibrators:
Chandra rechargeable fingertip vibrator
Isis ultra-compact finger vibe
Fukoku 9000 (with interchangeable sleeves)
Trojan jelly finger vibe
Finger Fun curved jelly vibrator
Fantasy Fingers five-setting finger vibe

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